Exhausted but Wired: The Silent Pattern of High-Functioning Burnout

Nancy Williams-Foley • 6 December 2025

There’s a strange kind of exhaustion I see often - especially in women who look, from the outside, as though they’re coping beautifully.

You get through the day.

You show up.

You stay capable, reliable, organised.

People assume you’re fine because you always have been.

 

But when night comes, something shifts.

 

Your body is pleading for rest, yet your mind feels wide awake - alert, scanning, preparing for the next thing.

 

It’s a feeling of being utterly drained and strangely switched on at the same time.

 

This is what I call being exhausted but wired - a nervous system trying to rest while still stuck in survival mode.


Burnout Isn’t Always Loud

We tend to picture burnout as falling apart - crying constantly, shutting down, being unable to cope.

 

But it rarely arrives like that.

 

Burnout often looks like:

  • pushing through tiredness because there’s no other option
  • being the one people can rely on
  • holding everything together
  • feeling exhausted all day yet unable to properly switch off at night

 

It’s quiet.

It’s internal.

It doesn’t announce itself, and often nobody notices until you hit a point where you can’t ignore the heaviness anymore.


The Pull Between “I Need Rest” and “I Can’t Stop Yet”

One of the hardest parts of high-functioning burnout is the contradiction inside your own body.

 

Your body says, “I need to slow down.”

Your mind says, “Just keep going a little longer.”

It’s confusing and draining.

 

You might notice:

  • fatigue that sits deep in your bones
  • a busy, unsettled mind the moment you try to lie down
  • feeling strangely alert at bedtime
  • waking up tired no matter how early you went to sleep
  • a shorter fuse or irritability you don’t recognise in yourself
  • unpredictable energy spikes and crashes

 

It’s not that you don’t know how to relax.

It’s that your nervous system doesn’t feel safe enough to.


Why Your System Gets Stuck Here

When stress continues for too long - not necessarily dramatic stress, but the quiet, ongoing kind - your nervous system slips into a state of high alert.

 

You might not notice it happening because you’re functioning, achieving, coping. But underneath, your system is working constantly to keep you going.

 

The real issue isn’t stress itself. It’s that the nervous system never gets the signal to switch from protection back into rest.

 

So you end up living in a body that feels:

  • depleted
  • pressured
  • restless
  • and permanently “on watch”

 

No wonder you feel stuck between exhaustion and alertness.


This Isn’t Your Fault

If you’re someone who:

  • shows up even when you’re tired
  • takes responsibility for everything and everyone
  • prides yourself on coping
  • is the steady one others rely on

 

…burnout can feel like a personal failure - as though you’ve done something wrong or let yourself down.

 

But you haven’t.

Your nervous system has simply been working too hard, for too long, without the chance to reset.

 

It’s not broken.

It’s over-protective.

There’s a lot of tenderness in recognising that.


Helping Your System Feel Safe Enough to Rest

Burnout recovery isn’t about forcing your body to relax. It’s about helping your nervous system trust that it can. With the right support, your system can learn the difference between:

  • genuine urgency
  • and the moments where it’s actually safe to soften

 

Therapeutic work - especially when it includes body-based approaches - can gently shift you out of that wired state.

 

Acupuncture and integrative therapy can help by supporting:

  • a calmer, more settled nervous system
  • tension releasing from the body rather than being held
  • improved sleep signals
  • a softer, quieter mind
  • steadier energy that doesn’t rely on adrenaline

 

It’s not about “fixing” anything.

It’s about giving your system enough safety and space to come back into balance.


If You Recognise Yourself Here

Feeling exhausted but wired doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’ve been carrying a lot - often silently - for far too long.

 

You deserve rest that truly restores you, not just the kind that stops you collapsing.

You deserve support that understands why you’re struggling, even when nobody else can see it.

And you deserve to feel like yourself again.

 

If you’d like help calming your nervous system and easing your way out of burnout, I’m here.

 

Whether through therapy, acupuncture, or a combination of both, we can work gently to help your body settle and breathe again. You don’t have to reach breaking point to get support. To find out more about the therapies I offer please click here.

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