The Calmer You Are, the Clearer You Think

Nancy Williams-Foley • 11 April 2025

It sounds simple - almost too simple - but there’s a quiet wisdom in those words.

There’s a quote I come back to often:

 

“The calmer you are, the clearer you think.”

 

It sounds simple - almost too simple - but there’s a quiet wisdom in those words. It’s the kind of truth that doesn’t just land intellectually; it settles into your body over time, through lived experience.

 

I’ve seen this unfold again and again in clients, and I’ve lived it myself.


A Moment That Shifted Everything

 

Some years ago, I was supporting someone through a difficult crossroads. They felt torn between two big decisions - both heavy with uncertainty, both tangled in emotion and fear of regret.

 

Every conversation circled the same storm:

💭 What if I choose wrong?

💭 What if I disappoint people?

💭 What if I fail?

 

They were trying so hard to think their way through it - to analyse, to weigh every possibility, to "get it right."

 

And then one day, something shifted.

 

They stopped trying to find the answer.

 

Instead, they paused.

 

They took a few deep breaths.

 

They let themselves be still.

 

It wasn’t dramatic. It didn’t look like a breakthrough. But from that quiet moment —clarity began to rise.

 

Not as a thunderbolt or a perfect answer. Just a soft, steady knowing. The panic eased.

 

The decision didn’t feel quite so overwhelming. And perhaps most importantly, they stopped fighting themselves.

 

Why Calm Comes First

That moment reminded me of something we all tend to forget - especially when we're overwhelmed:

 

We don’t find clarity by thinking harder. We find it by softening.

 

When we’re anxious or agitated, our thoughts become scrambled. The nervous system goes into overdrive, and the mind starts racing, chasing certainty like a moving target.

 

But the more we force ourselves to figure it out, the further away peace and perspective seem to get.

 

That’s because calm isn’t the reward for getting everything right.

 

It’s the place we begin.

 

And calm isn’t passive. It’s not numb or disengaged.

 

Calm is grounded. Present. Safe. It’s the space where you can respond, not just react.

 

From that place, choices feel clearer, self-compassion grows stronger, and life becomes less about surviving and more about navigating with intention.

 

When Do You Feel Most Clear?

 

Maybe it’s early in the morning before the day begins.

 

Maybe it’s halfway through a walk when you finally exhale.

 

Maybe it’s when you stop trying to fix, control, or force your way forward and just breathe.

 

Now imagine:

🌿 What would it feel like to live more often from that place?

 

Not just in rare, stolen moments but as part of your daily rhythm?

 

Because the calmer you are, the clearer you think.

 

And clarity doesn’t come from overthinking. It comes from coming back to yourself.

 

A Simple Practice for Calm + Clarity

 

Here’s a gentle 5-minute practice to create a moment of stillness - wherever you are:

  1. Sit somewhere comfortable.

You don’t need perfect posture - just feel supported.

  1. Close your eyes, or soften your gaze.
  2. Inhale slowly for a count of 4. Feel the breath arrive.

4. Hold for a count of 2.

5. Exhale gently for a count of 6. Let something go.

 

Repeat this for a few rounds.

 

As you breathe, notice:

– Where is there tension in your body?

– Can you soften your shoulders, unclench your jaw, release your grip?

 

If your mind wanders (and it will), just return to the breath.

 

No pressure. No perfect outcome. Just a pause.

 

When you're done, ask gently:

💭 What feels a little clearer now?

💭 What feels a little less urgent?

 

You don’t have to wait for peace to find you.

You can create it - one breath at a time.

And from there, everything begins to shift. 🌿


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